DISCLAIMER:

Pure Life Academy and our partners do not necessarily endorse all the views represented in the following resources. The resources represent differing views on best practices for raising children and teaching healthy sexuality. Each family and parent is responsible for selecting resources that work best with their children and belief system. If you find you are opposed to the views of one resource, please do not assume you will find issue with others on this list.

Resources for Emotional Awareness

Resources For Parents

  • Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel MD & Mary Hartzell
    Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

  • Safe House: How Emotional Safety Is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well by Joshua Straub
    Emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well. Learn how to use emotional safety as a foundation from which you parent—and make a cultural impact that could change the world!

  • The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Champan
    In this adaptation of the #1 New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages® (more than 10 million copies sold), Dr. Gary Chapman explores the world in which teenagers live, explains their developmental changes, and gives tools to help you identify and appropriately communicate in your teen's love language.

Resources For Children

  • A Child’s Book of Heroes by William Bennett
    Common childhood stories parents can use to point out emotional reactions and discuss how we react to our feelings.

  • A Child’s Book of Virtues by William Bennett
    More common childhood stories parents can use to point out emotional reactions and discuss how we react to our feelings.

  • MySELF: I Have Feelings by Multiple Authors
    Stories that lay the groundwork for young children to understand their emotions.

Personal Safety & Boundaries

  • Say "NO!" and TELL!: Daxton's Creative View of Personal Safety for Boys  by Kimberly Perry
    Teaching body awareness, explaining boundaries, and introducing Personal Safety (prevention awareness of safe boundaries for private parts) are pivotal milestones for children to learn today. Valuable prevention tools are woven throughout the story in a light-hearted fashion, while being considerate of preserving innocence, balancing naivety with wisdom and emphasizing solutions.

  • Say "NO!" and TELL!: Maisie's Creative View of Personal Safety for Girls  by Kimberly Perry
    Teaching body awareness, explaining boundaries, and introducing Personal Safety (prevention awareness of safe boundaries for private parts) are pivotal milestones for children to learn today. Valuable prevention tools are woven throughout the story in a light-hearted fashion, while being considerate of preserving innocence, balancing naivety with wisdom and emphasizing solutions.

  • Say "NO!" and TELL!: Training Grown-ups in Boundaries and Personal Safety for Kids by Kimberly Perry
    Using the Say “NO!” and TELL! training workbook, we can learn how to take action in a THREE-phased™ process: create awareness of the problem, educate to equip grownups and kids for preventative action, and develop intervention procedures to prevent questionable encounters by teaching grown-ups and children about boundaries and personal safety (prevention of child sexual abuse).

The Body & Development

Children Ages 5-8

  • My Body is a Gift from God by Sherie Adams, MFT. Very appropriate book for young children to introduce topics like modesty. Has online material parents can use to start conversations.

Children Ages 9-12

  • Changes: 7 Biblical Lessons to Make Sense of Puberty by Luke Gilkerson
    This devotional is a series of 7 parent-child Bible studies designed to help a pre-teen child (8 to 12 years old) understand the changes he or she can anticipate—both from a biological and Biblical point of view.

  • Preparing for Adolescence: How to Survive the Coming Years of Change by Dr. James Dobson
    What do you say to an adolescent who's getting ready to enter those turbulent teenage years? Dr. James Dobson, one of America's leading family psychologists, knows how to speak directly and sincerely to today's adolescents about the topics that trouble them most. Topics include avoiding feelings of inferiority, handling peer pressure, drug abuse, puberty, sexual development, menstruation, masturbation, romantic love, overcoming discouragement, sound decision-making, and handling independence.

  • Raising Body Confident Daughters: 8 Conversations to Have With Your Tween by Danna Gresh
    An easy-to-use mom's planning guide and online resources such as audio conversations with Dannah offer more ways to build your mom-daughter connection--and to love and protect your little girl as she grows into a woman.

  • It's Great to be a Girl by Danna Gresh
    Everywhere your daughter goes—online or in real life—our culture tells her lies about her body. That’s why Dannah Gresh and Suzy Weibel have developed this resource that points tween girls like yours to the truth about God’s design. Your body is a masterpiece created by God. With stories and examples your daughter can relate to, this Girl’s Guide takes her to the Bible as her resource, helping her meditate on its message and have fun while she does it. In this fun and down-to-earth handbook for girls age 8 to 12, you’ll find answers to questions about your changing body.

  • It's Great to be a Guy by Jarrod Sechler
    This contains everything a preteen guy needs to know about his changing body and feelings, and it's all written from the Bible's point of view. You can look forward to all God has planned for you because it's great to be a guy!

  • The Ultimate Guys' Body Book: Not-So-Stupid Questions About Your Body by Walt Larimore, MD
    Finally, everything you wanted to know about your body, but you’ve just been too chicken to ask. Ultimate Guys’ Body Book is the first book for boys that gives honest answers to real questions about your body from a biblical perspective. No, you’re not falling apart—you’re just growing up! But there’s no need to fear, when God is near. He’s your personal guide to understanding your body.

  • The Ultimate Girls' Body Book: Not-So-Silly Questions About Your Body by by Walt Larimore, MD
    The Ultimate Body Book for Girls answers all those awkward questions you’d rather not ask your mom—at least out loud. Mixing fun with great advice, you’ll learn about bras, boys, periods, pimples, and so much more. Most importantly, you’ll learn that God made you exactly the way he wants you—no matter how weird growing up can be.

God's Design for Sex

  • God’s Design for Sex (Books 1, 2, 3, & 4) by Stan & Brenna Jones
    Books include: The Story of Me, Before I was Born, Facing the Facts, What's the Big Deal? These books help parents educate children about healthy sexuality and intimacy at appropriate ages.

  • Guide to Talking with Your Kids about Sex by Focus on the Family
    A comprehensive guide for parents on talking to their children about sex and sexuality.

  • The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson
    The Talk is a series of 7 studies, all anchored in the Scriptures, that helps parents to talk meaningfully with children about sexuality. The Talk was written for parents to read with children ages 6 to 10 years old.

  • Father + Son: Talk About Sex by Freedom Begins Here
    Looking for a way to talk to your son about sex? Freedom Begins Here presents a new format of discussion. The Father Son interactive DVD and Guidebook is a way for fathers to talk openly with their sons about sex, as well as pornography. This is a humorous, but appropriate way to break the ice on some awkward conversations. Particularly useful in getting boys to relax and open up.

Guidance for Sexual Conversations

Gradeschool Aged Children

  • Beginning the Path to Purity by Laura Gallier
    Helpful insights for parents to use when teaching older elementary aged children how to overcome today’s sex-related pressures. The book contains a thorough list of conversations to have with gradeschool children to help them process the sexual misinformation they face.

  • Next Talk Video Series Focusing on Open Communication, Next Talk discusses cyber safety and the communication necessary between children and parents today for kids to survive the sexual world. This is a parent group video curriculum. Content is provided for free to any group.

  • Next Talk Book by Mandy Majors
    This is the book version of the Next Talk Video series. Answers questions like, "How can I protect my child from online threats like pornography and cyberstrangers? My child is being bullied online. What can I do? How do I talk about sex with my tween? I’m not sure how to discuss issues like homosexuality and transgender with my child. Do you have any suggestions?"

  • Talk-Today-Safer-Tomorrow-TSA-2018.pdf 10 easy conversation starters by the Safeguard Alliance

Pursuing Sexual Wholeness

Children Ages Puberty-18

  • Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship by John Fort & Lucas Fort
    This book goes beyond parents having a single talk with a child about sexuality. Instead, it lays out a way to have ongoing conversations between father and son that will change with the son’s development and struggles with purity. This is not a "birds and the bees" book, but discusses the underlying foundation that needs to be put in place before a father can begin to deal with the allure of sexuality and pornography with his son. Very clear, concrete, and boldly addresses difficult topics such as decision making in teenagers, willpower, masturbation and exactly how to do accountability with a son.

  • Relationships: 11 Lessons to Give Kids a Greater Understanding of Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson
    Learning how to navigate the waters of the teenage years can be difficult. How can we teach our kids how to relate to opposite sex friends? How do we help our kids understand the importance of gender in a world where gender norms are constantly changing? How do we train our kids to steward their sexuality in a godly way? This book helps parents guide their kids through these sometimes awkward topics.

  • Pure Teens by Dr. John Thornington
    Pure Teens is a valuable, practical resource for every Christian teen about relationships and sex—and why they are such a big deal to God.

  • No Trespassing: I’m God’s Property by Leah Holder
    Not all parents understand the sexual pressures teen girls are faced with today. Leah, age 19 at the time of writing, presents truths and personal testimonies regarding how we can be sexually pure within this sex-crazy world. No Trespassing contains three brief sections—mind, body, and heart. Within them, Leah provides practical tips to guide us on our journeys to sexual purity. A top pick for relevance in today's reality.

  • Choosing to Wait by Laura Gallier
    A Parent's Guide to Inspiring Abstinence gives readers a refreshing alternative approach for rearing sexually pure kids. The book contains discussion questions and discussion road maps which equip parents to initiate and facilitate quality conversations with their kids about the subject matter from each chapter. This book goes beyond boundary setting, and instead empowers parents to cultivate convictions in their children so they can stand strong when faced with temptation. While other books focus on modifying a child's behavior, this book gives parents the power to ignite lasting character transformation in their kids.

  • Every Young Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
    The authors of the Every Man’s Battle know the temptations young men face every day. The fact is, you can achieve victory over sexual compromise. Every Young Man’s Battle shows you how to rise above today's debased, self-seeking culture by examining God's standard, training your eyes and mind, cleaning up your thought life, and developing a plan. With extensive updates for a new generation of men, this is the award-winning guide to practical resistance. Bottom line: these strategies are biblical and they have worked for millions of men.

  •  Every Young Woman’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge & Stephen Arterburn
    The world we live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it's easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. Find answers to why we struggle and how to be successful in our goals.

  • What are You Waiting For? by Danna Gresh
    For young woman looking for honest answers about sex—and wondering why it’s such a big deal—you’ve come to the right place. Dannah does not shy away from personal topics and addresses questions few openly discuss. Not one to shy away from edgy topics, Dannah candidly shares: straight talk about masturbation and pornography, the ground-breaking science that explains the addictive power of romantic experiences, honest answers about the lesbian question, a clear plan for breaking free from sexual guilt, the unexpected key to a lifetime of truly fulfilling intimacy

Relationships & Dating

  • Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud
    From the respected author of "Boundaries" comes a book specifically designed to help young singles and teens work through boundaries in dating in such a way that they can grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. .

  • True Love Dates by Debra Fileta
    This book offers profound insights from the expertise of a professional counselor to help teens experience a season of dating as a way to find real love. Fileta helps teens and young single adults bypass unnecessary pain while focusing on the things that really matter in the world of dating.

Addressing Pornography

Children Ages 5-8

  • Will I Rob My Child's Innocence by Warning them About Pornography? by Kristen Jenson
    Kristen addresses a concern of many parents when trying to decide if a child is too young to begin preparing them how to react when they encounter pornography.

  • Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds by Kristen Jenson
    Young children deserve to be armed early against internet dangers. Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. makes it easy for parents to protect their young kids ages 3 to 6. Using gentle, age-appropriate messages, children will learn to Turn, Run & Tell when they are accidentally exposed to inappropriate content.

  • Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids. by Kristen Jenson
    Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it's dangerous, and how to reject it. Using easy-to-understand science and simple analogies, this ground-breaking book engages young kids to porn-proof their own brains.

  • What Should I do When I See Pornography?
    An age appropriate video aimed at young children giving very clear and easy instructions on what to do when they come across pornography. The presenters are children themselves, making the subject more comfortable for your child to respond to.

Children Over 12

  • Brain, Heart, World by Fight the New Drug
    This is a three-part documentary on how pornography affects the brain and how we can live in a way that resists pornography. This is currently The Best resource for helping older children understand why pornography is dangerous and it is done very professionally. Check as often families are allowed to view these documentaries for free.

  • When Your Child is Looking at Pornography by Covenant Eyes
    The sad fact is, most children do end up seeing pornography, even if parents have taken steps to prevent exposure. For parents, discovering a child has been exposed can be alarming, hurtful, even frightening. This free ebook from Covenant Eyes helps parents how to talk to a child who has been exposed.

  • How to Talk to Your Kids about Pornography by Educate and Empower Kids
    The best resource we've found to teach parents how to talk to middle aged children about the danger of pornography and good ways to avoid it's allure. Critical information and great discussion questions are provided that will foster productive and meaningful conversations between you and your kids.

  • Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship by John Fort & Lucas Fort
    Meant to be read by a father and son together this book explains how pornography is particularly harmful to adolescents. Very clear steps are outlined for fathers to help guide their sons away from pornography use.

Other Resources for Parents

  • Covenant Eyes Parent Blog
    A very large collection of professional blogs on parenting children in a way that helps prevent sexualization of our children. New blogs are added almost daily, making this an excellent resource to return to regularly.

  • ProtectYoungMinds.org
    PYM seeks to help parents "porn-proof" their kids before they come across highly addictive and easily accessible internet pornography. Additionally, PYM offers guidance for families whose children have already been hurt by pornography, and hopes to serve as a "force multiplier" by empowering proactive people who want to educate their local communities.

  • Focus on the Family Parenting Section
    A large and thorough collection of online articles preparing parents to deal with a wide variety of issues parents face when trying to teach healthy sexuality. Included are articles on how to help children who have fallen into pornography use or other inappropriate sexual behaviors.

  • Parenting the Internet Generation by CovenantEyes.com
    Internet pornography is just one of the dangers facing your kids online. Have you thought about what else your kids are facing? This free ebook from Covenant Eyes helps parents know how keep their children safe online.

  • Internet Safety 101 by Enough is Enough
    Internet Safety 101 covers the safety basics you need to know to become educated, equipped and empowered to protect children from pornography, sexual predators, and cyberbullies, as well as how to keep kids safe on social networking sites, gaming and mobile devices. Filled with poignant true stories and essential strategies to counter these dangers, you will gain information, skills, and confidence to effectively protect children on all Internet-enabled devices.

  • How to Protect Your Kids Online by Caroline Chambers
    An easy to understand and newer article on protecting kids online, including tips for toddlers, children and teenagers. Introduces several technology approaches not mentioned in other sources.

  • The Culture Translator
    While not about sexuality or purity, this online tool is one parents can use to understand the ever-changing culture and terminology in their children's lives. Perhaps not needed by every parent, but a great tool for those who want to understand their children's language.

  • imdb.com
    Movie review site with the most thorough parent advisory content available. Select any movie and look for Parent Guide: View Content Advisory. We highly recommend using this tool before allowing your children, or even family, to see any old or new movie. Don't be surprised, know ahead of time what movies contain. Ratings themselves do not always tell the whole story.

  • Vidangel.com
    A website where you can download digital versions of movies with the content you don't want to expose your family to removed. You can chose to have violence, vulgar language, and sexual content removed. Not all movies are available, but many are. If your kids want to see a movie but you know it has content you don't want them to see, check Vidangel out to see if you can show them a cleaned up version.